tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post4209218761279928286..comments2024-03-04T08:15:23.887-06:00Comments on JOYFUL REFLECTIONS: Let's Talk Fridays: Can WORDS Hurt?Betsy Banks Adamshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16223591156634767330noreply@blogger.comBlogger71125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-30619450910885183372011-04-03T18:00:58.675-05:002011-04-03T18:00:58.675-05:00I really like the flowers in your header - so love...I really like the flowers in your header - so lovely!<br />Very true that words can hurt. And I do believe comments or emails can be misinterpreted as harsher than they were intended, simply because we can't tell is someone meant a statement lightly or seriously. <br />I've been hurt by a few blogger comments that I felt were overly critical and unjustified. With that in mind, I try very hard not to phrase something in a way that could be interpreted as critical.Janiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06509431336916594990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-84249790628751230682011-04-03T16:41:57.655-05:002011-04-03T16:41:57.655-05:00Thought provoking!Thought provoking!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-35702077639104263742011-04-01T23:06:07.876-05:002011-04-01T23:06:07.876-05:00Love the beautiful new header. have a great weeken...Love the beautiful new header. have a great weekend...m.Mary Isabella and Kiley too!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03370938632028789596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-67127901630373111042011-03-30T23:58:06.058-05:002011-03-30T23:58:06.058-05:00I think I am little late. I agree completely Betsy...I think I am little late. I agree completely Betsy. Yes.. We should think twice before we speak or write. Thanks for the lovely post. Have a nice day!Pranavam Ravikumarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01994258982161346263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-32777823050343414342011-03-30T12:36:02.205-05:002011-03-30T12:36:02.205-05:00Betsy,
I hope you have a great week off from blogg...Betsy,<br />I hope you have a great week off from blogging and the weather will be pretty.<br />Yes, there is power in words. They can heal or hurt. I hope everything I say will encourage others.Brenda Kay Ledfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03077314514118637590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-81365765854829888432011-03-29T21:50:07.926-05:002011-03-29T21:50:07.926-05:00Remember the words we heard as children--at least ...Remember the words we heard as children--at least at my house.<br />If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.<br /><br />Good for you for bringing this up Betsy---We all must examine what we do and/or say at times. MBSmall City Sceneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12307313549480618415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-37911239458980971312011-03-29T10:22:30.208-05:002011-03-29T10:22:30.208-05:00So love visiting your writes ... you capture the b...So love visiting your writes ... you capture the beauty in life & surroundings perfectly bringing such joy to we who are visiting.<br /><br />There is a situation going on right now in bloggyville that was very hurtful ... I can not believe the mentality of others who are vicious/cruel/thoughtlessness in their verbiage. Shame on them.<br /><br />Have a beautiful respite. See you soon ...<br />Have a beautiful day, my friend ~<br />TTFN ~<br />MarydonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05697196986038110683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-2706077198219661242011-03-28T11:36:15.804-05:002011-03-28T11:36:15.804-05:00Hi Betsy...Love the Pink!
I have been giving the s...Hi Betsy...Love the Pink!<br />I have been giving the subject here a lot of thought.<br />You are so right...there could easily be misunderstandings. I certainly hope no one has ever been hurt or offended by me. All my friends out there are so gentle and kind. I look for you/them everyday. This has also made me aware of words in other places, and I am trying to think before I speak. It's been good to think about this.mudderbearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04537045078065798116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-32666785362151655812011-03-28T05:35:20.005-05:002011-03-28T05:35:20.005-05:00Such an interesting post Betsy.
You are correct, o...Such an interesting post Betsy.<br />You are correct, oftentimes a comment may be taken the wrong way,<br />maybe it wasn't written with the intentions of being rude, or hurtful, but came across that way.<br />I've had a couple of hurtful comments, but then saw the very same comment on other firends blogs, so I think maybe they were spam.<br />Enjoy your little bloggy break, look forward to your next post !<br />~Hugs,<br />JoA Brit in Tennesseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16080644141670903160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-81292988703216690502011-03-28T02:36:54.760-05:002011-03-28T02:36:54.760-05:00I have personally been embroiled in one blog wars ...I have personally been embroiled in one blog wars a few years ago. It happened inside a newspaper's forum which is from Thailand where many expatriates gave their comments and there was a lunatic Thai lady who often told them off. Somehow, I tried to make peace and sided the Westerners but got into verbal wars with her instead. It was a silly episode and I should have stayed out from the start as none of the expatriates gave me any praise for coming into their defense. It was a good lesson for me to move away from whatever deemed as nonsense or awful.<br /><br />You have been a lovely blogger with beautiful photos to make anyone happy!Twilight Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04574109866770324683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-37525657287009099992011-03-27T20:45:21.066-05:002011-03-27T20:45:21.066-05:00Very well expressed, Betsy. Thank you for remindi...Very well expressed, Betsy. Thank you for reminding us that words do hurt if interpreted wrong. You always have positive comments and never offend. Thank you for that. You are a true friend-blogger, but in our case, you are more like a sister.<br />BlessYourKindHeartDarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16642092433299872708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-50501248493716405282011-03-27T19:38:16.190-05:002011-03-27T19:38:16.190-05:00Betsy,
This is a phenomenal question and very inte...Betsy,<br />This is a phenomenal question and very interesting perspective. <br />The only words that made me cringe were actually on your blog, when that gentleman left that obnoxious message onyour site. I was appalled and heart broken for you!<br />Anyway, I am very careful about the individuals I follow and it is my hope that no one would hurt me with their words; naieve perhaps, but nonetheless, I've learned to trust my gut.<br /><br />Great great blog today!<br />Have a great week!Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795817810030681267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-17076194927767120992011-03-27T15:51:40.507-05:002011-03-27T15:51:40.507-05:00Well said Betsy....
I haven't read any bad com...Well said Betsy....<br />I haven't read any bad comments, but I have read that it happens. I'm with you, I just click off if I don't agree with topic. I would never intentionally hurt anyone with my words. I try to always be positive in my comments. One thing I've learned...you can't take hurtful words back so I stay away from them.<br />Have a great week off....see you soon.nannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12627958113283042574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-82880643471601122332011-03-27T12:18:59.865-05:002011-03-27T12:18:59.865-05:00Hi Betsy, love the header photo, so cheery and bri...Hi Betsy, love the header photo, so cheery and bright! We have had several more inches of snow here and several days of below "normal" temps. However, I know spring is here and will show her "pretty face" soon! I must say your post was very insightful, and I have been very lucky in never receiving negative comments. I too always check my comments in case I say or imply something that might be misconstrued. As a child I was taught "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"! I wish you a nice break from blogging! I have been "on break" most of the winter and am trying hard to get back into blogging.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07360476402810561433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-30847817888398504082011-03-27T12:09:20.955-05:002011-03-27T12:09:20.955-05:00Hi Sweetie. It's been too long since we've...Hi Sweetie. It's been too long since we've crossed paths! You are so right. Even people who we are really close with can misinterpret the written word. I tend to think I'm a comic, so say things in jest to those close to me that have been taken the wrong way. When I am made aware of it, I apologize and (usually) feel horrible that the words were taken badly.My DIL told me years ago that she does NOT appreciate my sense of humor,so I walk on eggs if around her. I have had but one of my comments on a blog taken the wrong way and when I emailed the gal and explained what I meant she was very nice about it.I've seen a few rude comments on blogs,but unless it is blatent,figure the wrong words were chosen and no harm meant. Have missed reading your blog. Hope your time off is great!Cassiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12342650928455607172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-27811676673723772652011-03-26T14:05:20.164-05:002011-03-26T14:05:20.164-05:00You are right about words and their power. One pr...You are right about words and their power. One problem we run into in our own home is I can give one of my daughters a compliment and this particular girl will take it the wrong way. For instance, if I say, "Your outfit looks cute." The response I might get is, "Are you saying I don't look good the other days?" arrrggghhh!!!!<br />We will miss reading you this week but we all need an occasional break from our blog.Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12404589772713955710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-14253869209456665542011-03-26T11:42:44.147-05:002011-03-26T11:42:44.147-05:00I couldn't agree with you more! If words don&#...I couldn't agree with you more! If words don't edify another than why say them? Especially in comments. This is for fun and to make people feel better - to give a bit of joy in this world that is filled with so much loveliness but also pain - by posting and commenting; by sharing! Well done with this one, Betsy!<br />Blessings for a lovely Sunday!<br />annChristmas-etc...https://www.blogger.com/profile/02300341297230365524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-52164826703139534842011-03-26T10:09:27.228-05:002011-03-26T10:09:27.228-05:00Wise and true words that need to be taken to heart...Wise and true words that need to be taken to heart by all of us, Betsy. Words, positive or negative, are like feathers tossed into the wind; they can never be recalled -- and we have no control over how far they will travel.Pat - Arkansashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11623638376731374600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-43986717097214680082011-03-26T09:03:46.988-05:002011-03-26T09:03:46.988-05:00The only conclusion I can come to when I think abo...The only conclusion I can come to when I think about folks who are mean spirited and hateful on the internet is that...well, they are mean spirited and hateful! I blog for fun and must assume that others do the same. If their comments and posts become ugly and hurtful, one must assume that they find this contrary, hurtful activity enjoyable. Sad, but I'm afraid, true. <br /><br />The best part of your post is that it's a reminder to the rest of us that the bulk of our internet contact through blogging has been positive and encouraging...even loving and empathetic (amazing consider we never really see each other!). It never hurts to be reminded to "just be nice" as my sweet Momma used to say.Deb from WhatsInMyAttichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11126246734744950335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-10222190115076790942011-03-26T07:48:37.239-05:002011-03-26T07:48:37.239-05:00Hi Betsy! You're my hero!!! The pen (or in t...Hi Betsy! You're my hero!!! The pen (or in this instance, keyboard) IS mightier than the sword! Being negative is just a waste of emotional time. It brings you no joy and alters the world around you. Why not follow your example and spread JOY instead??? Have a safe week and enjoy your time off. Somebody forgot to tell the hollow that Spring arrived...burrrrMargehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02687426202666732967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-35152734713943245112011-03-26T07:48:33.898-05:002011-03-26T07:48:33.898-05:00Hi Betsy! You're my hero!!! The pen (or in t...Hi Betsy! You're my hero!!! The pen (or in this instance, keyboard) IS mightier than the sword! Being negative is just a waste of emotional time. It brings you no joy and alters the world around you. Why not follow your example and spread JOY instead??? Have a safe week and enjoy your time off. Somebody forgot to tell the hollow that Spring arrived...burrrrMargehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02687426202666732967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-48155454094343548642011-03-26T07:33:30.094-05:002011-03-26T07:33:30.094-05:00Well, you already know I firmly believe this - aft...Well, you already know I firmly believe this - after the year we had last year.<br /><br />Beautiful post Betsy! ONe more people should read.Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12935595857109815870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-71838658543150080442011-03-26T07:19:09.675-05:002011-03-26T07:19:09.675-05:00The nice thing about my photo blogs, it does all t...The nice thing about my photo blogs, it does all the talking for me. I doubt that scenes of mountains, streams, wildlife and trees will offend many. Good luck, my friend. (hug)Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02324458825591614167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-16424800759446054872011-03-26T01:54:22.034-05:002011-03-26T01:54:22.034-05:00A thought provoking post and a good reminder to be...A thought provoking post and a good reminder to be careful with our words. I have had one years ago on a different blog site. A male who had a go at me on how I treated Bill because I did a post on one of our walks and I jokingly said something about Bill having to wait for me to take photos. Some people can get upset over the silliest things.diane bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12002292118984909883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3915113069723845995.post-14991134316265564592011-03-25T20:06:56.786-05:002011-03-25T20:06:56.786-05:00What a wonderfully insightful post Betsy!
In three...What a wonderfully insightful post Betsy!<br />In three years of blogging I've only been hurt once with a comment about one of my photos. This person had been leaving snide little jabs for a week or so and then just told me I didn't know what I was talking about. I agree, it hurts cause you ask why me. I just stopped returning their comments.<br />I try to be upbeat whenever I leave a comment and I know it's a cliche, but if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. I don't understand anyone's need to make someone else hurt in any way. <br />Thank you for reminding us our words count.<br />Betsy, you and George have a wonderful blog break!Carlettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11178161514195582965noreply@blogger.com