Showing posts with label TALK. Show all posts
Showing posts with label TALK. Show all posts

Monday, November 11, 2013

What's Your Story?

I was reading a favorite blog of mine by Dr. Kathleen Mc Coy (Living Fully in Midlife and Beyond).  One of her latest posts  (click HERE) really spoke to me ---and gave me an idea for a post myself.  Dr. McCoy says that if we are willing to 'change our story',  we can change our life.  We need to let go of bitterness and anger, and to get rid of  old 'family roles'.  This can free us ---and help us change our story.

As I read this blog post (she gave several examples of people being 'stuck' in their stories, etc.),  I thought about my own life.  What is MY story?????  Well----long before I read Kathy's blog post,  I stepped out in faith,  definitely changing my life ---and story!

As background to this,  I will say that I had a wonderful childhood and fantastic parents.  I got married very young --and my then husband and I had 3 wonderful sons.  However, the marriage gradually deteriorated,  and lack of communication along with other issues finally ended that marriage --after almost 20 years.

I moved and raised my two younger sons by myself (older son was in college by then),  all while being employed fulltime AND while working on my Master's Degree.  Times were not easy--but I was one 'driven' lady...   I worked for another 20 years ---and most people who knew me then would say that I was definitely a 'work-a-holic'..... I loved my work--and worked many, many hours a day/week. 

Once my sons all grew up and after my good friend moved,  I began to realize that I was LONELY.   I had never even dated since my divorce,  and frankly,  hadn't wanted to for many years.  I hadn't even had much of a 'social life'.   BUT--as I got older and as the kids got married and had families of their own,  I knew that I needed a change.  I needed to 'Change my Story'...

This change was not easy --and my family and friends in Texas certainly didn't understand why I was leaving a good job and leaving my family...  I moved by myself to Tennessee in 2000  to begin a new job.  In the back of my mind,  I was hoping that I would meet that special someone sometime (although I wasn't sure I EVER would since I had been single for SO long).

WELL---I did meet George Adams when I moved to Tennessee,  my life TOTALLY changed,  and I found that true happiness I had lived so long without.   We got married in 2001.  I retired from that  'new' job in 2003 --and we moved to our beautiful little home here in Fairfield Glade.

BUT--as beautiful as my life was/is for me,  this new life wasn't always easy for my children and grandchildren.  My sons saw their 'work-a-holic' mother turn into a gardener,  a birder,  a hiker ----all things I had never done much of when the children were young.  I think for awhile (without my knowledge at the time),  my sons and families struggled with the 'new' Mom/Grammy.   I was oblivious of what was happening at the time since my happiness with my new husband became EVERYTHING to me.    Maybe I was ignoring my children/grandchildren---but I certainly never did it purposely.

These days,  I have a great relationship with all three sons ---but there's still tension within the rest of their families.   I have had to just 'let it go' ---and pray that someday,  those family members will understand that I love them all very much,  and that,  by getting married,  I never ever meant to hurt anyone--or make them feel as if I didn't care about them...

Would I change any part of my story?????  NOT a DROP of it!!!!!  I have the most wonderful husband that any woman could ever ever ever want... I am a blessed woman.  I wish that members of my family  could know George like I do.  BUT--the miles between us make that impossible.

I have learned that all people make choices in their own lives.  I pray that time will continue to heal those strained feelings within the family.  I love them --and hope that they will know that someday.  In the meantime,  I'm still the happiest woman in the entire world ---and have enjoyed these past 12 years with George more than one can imagine. I know that I'm still a 'work in progress'  ---and I pray this happiness will remain in me until the day I die. 

This photo is NOT me --but it could be.  I feel that kind of JOY each and every single day with George Adams.  Thanks be to God!

I'll close by saying that ALL of US can 'Change our Story' ---if it needs changing... I encourage each of you to step out in faith ---and find that deep HAPPINESS which may be hidden deep within you. 

Betsy playing in the Leaves!!!
All of the pictures except this one are from the internet.  I love quotes --and you know that if you read the ones I put on my sidebar each month... So many of these little quotes can speak to me---and hopefully to you.

George took this picture of me on Saturday, Nov. 9, 2013 ---while we were raking/blowing/mowing leaves.... I was sitting deep in the leaves ---showing more of the HAPPINESS I feel!!!!!  Yeah for MY life!!!!  I wish this kind of life for each and everyone of you. God Bless!!!

Be sure to check out Kathy's blog... She may speak to you ---just like she does to me!

Don't forget to THANK those who sacrificed so much for our freedoms.  Happy Veteran's Day!


Monday, October 14, 2013

What I LOVE about AUTUMN

1.  COOLER Temperatures  (can wear sweatsuits,  sweaters, etc.) (Photo from Internet)
There are so many wonderful things about FALL/AUTUMN.    I do love spring ---but in many ways,  I love Fall even more!!!!!   Today I will share 12 things that I love about Autumn (not in any particular order)... I'm sure you can add to the list---so this is a chance for you to tell me other ways that we can ALL enjoy Fall...

Above is a photo talking about one thing  I really love about Autumn:  cooler temperatures --so that we can wear our new sweatsuits,  sweaters,  scarves,  etc.... Gotta love it!!!! 

2.   Fires in our Wood-burning Fireplace
Above is a photo I took on  October 8, 2013.... We had our FIRST wood-fire of the season that evening....   I LOVE it.... There's just not much better than a warm, cozy, roaring fire in the fireplace!!!! 

3.  PUMPKIN Fudge  (Photo from Internet)
Those who know me know that I love ANYTHING Pumpkin... I had some Pumpkin Fudge while on vacation.  I also am enjoying Pumpkin Spice Coffee and Pumpkin Hot Tea.....  YUM!!!!!  Give me lots of things made from Pumpkin this time of year!!!!

4.   Fall Colors on the Trees
Here is a photo I took a few years ago here in Fairfield Glade during the peak of Fall season.   Isn't that a gorgeous tree????

5.   Honey Crisp Apples  (Photos from the Internet)
George and I  love APPLES---and in the Fall,  we can get our favorite EATING apple,  the Honey Crisp Apple.  Honey Crisp Apples are crisp,  and are sweet AND tart....  WONDERFUL!!!!

6.  Hiking --and feeling the crunch of leaves under my feet!
We love HIKING during all seasons (except the hot summers).   There's nothing better than hiking in the mountains (this was taken by George while we were on the Foothills Parkway in the Smokies in 2012) ---especially in the Fall.   I love the cooler air and I really love hearing the leaves crunch under my feet when I am hiking!

7.  It's Football Time in Tennessee (Photo from Internet)
I LOVE Football --especially my Tennessee Vols... SO----Fall here in Tennessee is an exciting time for us.... 

8.  Hot Apple Cider  (Photo from the Internet)
Besides Pumpkin Coffee and Pumpkin Hot Tea,  I also LOVE Hot Apple Cider this time of year.... Delicious---and the house smells wonderful when it is on the stove!!!!

9.  Blowing the Leaves
YES---this is work,  but one of my jobs all Fall is to either rake and/or blow the leaves out of the yard...  I truly enjoy it ---and it's good exercise.   This photo was taken a few years ago --when I had really short hair and was several pounds heavier....  (Another thing I love about Autumn is not only blowing leaves;  it is PLAYING in the leaves!!!  I am a child at heart!)

10.  Electric Blanket  (Photo from the Internet)
Here is another Fall/Winter favorite of mine----our Electric Blanket... I am sorta weird in that I love to sleep in a cold bedroom (with the windows opened) ---with the 'blankie' turned on... It's TERRIFIC to get into a warm bed at nights!!!

11,  Winter Pansies Planted
Fall is the time when we plant  lots of Winter Pansies in our yard.  They are so pretty and give the yard a little color through the drab winters here.

12.  Decorating the house/yard
And  finally,  here is another thing I love about Autumn... I am not a 'huge' decorator this time of year,  but do enjoy putting out a few things to celebrate the season.  This photo was taken on October 9,  2013.

WELL---I'm sure I have left out many other things which people love about Autumn.... Now--it's YOUR turn to give some of your favorite things about Fall....

The key though is to just get outside and enjoy life --anyway you can!!!

Have a great day!

Monday, September 16, 2013

SOUNDS----the Good Ones and the Bad Ones

I got this idea from blog friend,  Arkansas Patti (NEW SIXTY)..  Thanks, Patti!!!!  I enjoyed commenting on her blog so much that I decided to do a blog post myself so that I could read your idea and thoughts on SOUNDS that you like and ones that you don't....

Here are some of my ideas.... Take a minute and add some or take away some from this group!!!!!  We are all different and special --and we all love different things in this life.  It's so much fun sharing our thoughts with each other...

Above is probably the worst sound for me....  I hate to hear our HOME PHONE ringing.... I worked for many years using a phone ---calling people to get them to volunteer for things.. SO--these days,  I stay far away from phones!   Our home phone is the number we give to businesses, doctors, etc.  --and it's the number that telemarketers have (even though we are ON the no-call list)....  SO ---most of the time,  we don't even answer the home phone!!!!!

I do LOVE the sound of my cellphone ringing especially when it's one of my sons calling... They don't call as much as I wish they would (they are so busy) --so when I do hear from them,  I LOVE it... I also love getting text messages from them --and from other family and friends....

I LOVE LOVE LOVE hearing the birds sing,  or squawk.... The Pileated and the Red-bellied Woodpeckers make alot of noise before coming to the feeders.  I LOVE hearing that...

Do you like hearing crying babies in church?????  I do NOT... That's what churches should have nurseries for...  I am thrilled that young families go to church ---but PLEASE take the children out if they are noisy!!!!!!

How about STRIKING CLOCKS???  Many people don't like them --but I love them.  We have three old clocks and all of them strike.... LOVE that sound!

How about lawnmowers?????   I don't mind hearing them most of the time  (and I love to smell grass which has been mown) ---but when the golf course lawn mowers mow about 6:30 am,  I'm usually not a Happy Camper... ha ha

Do you listen to music?  Both George and I love music ---and we listen to music ALOT.... We both have earphones at  our computers ---and enjoy all of the music we have on our iTunes....  There is SOME music which I don't love (like heavy rock or rap) ---but for the most part,  I do love music.

How  about the sound of LAUGHTER?   I love hearing someone give a big-ole-belly laugh!!!!!  I also love hearing toddlers laughing loudly!!!!

Do  you like thunderstorms????  I do --most of the time.  BUT--when thunder wakes me up during the middle of the night,  I don't like that sound....  HOWEVER,  I adore hearing the rain hit our skylights... What a wondeful sound!

How  about hearing your doorbell ring????  I don't usually care for that sound unless I am 'expecting' someone...  Most of the time,  I'm not dressed for company!!!!! ha ha

What about BARKING DOGS?   They drive me crazy --and if I ever have another dog,  I want one that barks RARELY... ha....  Seriously,  the saddest thing is having to listen to the poor, chained up dog in our neighborhood... He barks ALL DAY LONG...   That is sad!

Do you enjoy hearing TRAIN WHISTLES?   I love it --since I grew up in an area where trains were very important.  My Dad worked for the railroad --so trains are special to me.  The photo above was from the Cass Railroad in West VA...  That sound of the steam engine was FANTASTIC.

What about having to listen to loud, noisy and screaming children when you are in a restaurant?????   I HATE it..... Again,  let me say that I love kids... I raised three of them.  However,  so many kids today are not disciplined.   Parents need to take control --and show the children who is BOSS... Kids need to behave!!!!!

How about the CROWD SOUNDS at a college or pro football game (or any sports event)??????   I LOVE them ---but I'm a sports fan!!!!!  (That photo is from my wonderful team,  the University of Tennessee Volunteers!!!!1)

Finally, I told you my least favorite sound (phone ringing) ---so now,  I'll tell you my FAVORITE SOUND....  You could have guessed it I'm sure!!!! ha.....

This photo is one that I took on Sept. 5 when we were in the Tremont area of the Smoky Mountains... I love love love the sound of raging water ---whether it be waterfalls,  cascades or just a raging creek....  LOVE it.

Now it's your turn!!!!!  What is your favorite sound and what is your LEAST favorite sound?????

Have a wonderful day.